The Fall semester of 1980 begins a rough time for me to remember. This is the start of my relationship with the wonderful lady who became my wife, Bertha. We came together the second week of the semester, after her supposed fiancee told her he wanted to see all the other, prettier women on campus, and not be seen with her. I guess my biggest attraction to Bert was that she needed me. It is fine and lovely for a woman to be independent, but a couple needs to be interdependent, and that’s what Bert and I became. After only two weeks of doing everything with her, I could not imagine doing anything without her.
My GPA fell from 3.7 to 2.9 and I spent more money on Bertha than on my tuition. We had internships together, went to church together, took several classes together and studied together. Bertha was an elementary education major while I was still studying Bible and Ministerial Arts. But the electives and basic courses were still the same.
My homeletics course was easy that semester, I could always give a good talk if I took the time to organize my thoughts. The only hard part was trying to keep the sermons to ten or fifteen minutes. Vaudie Lambert told us, “Give me a couple of hours to fill and I can speak off the cuff. But if I only have ten minutes, it takes days to prepare.” But it was enormous fun.
That Fall, just like they do every year, the college sponsored a “Sadie Hawkins Party” based on the Li’l Abner comic strip character that was always stalking around Dog Patch trying to get her a man. For this party only the women could invite men to come. The year before, I was in the band and was exempt from this stricture. But this year Bertha asked me to come, so I put away my guitar. Bertha didn’t have a country style hat to wear, so I gave her my Stetson western hat for the night and broke out my old Resistol hat. It needed re-blocking, having spent the past few months in the bottom of a sea bag, so I blocked it Winchester style and pinned the front brim up like Forrest Kelley in F-Troop.
We had photos taken, and it was a joy to show off my lovely lady to all the people who took the time to look at the pics. Bertha had a beauty rare in a big and tall woman. It came from the love in her heart. You could see the light of that love radiate from her in every pose she struck. Even the camera loved her. Not something most people can say.
I can’t recall if it was that Christmas or the following Easter that I took Bertha to my mother’s and stepfather’s home in Margate, Florida to show her off. At first my family loved her and there was no wrong she could do. We attended the little Full Gospel Assembly of God in a nearby town and did as much as we could together. But my mom wanted to teach Bert how to cook my favorite dishes. So my stepfather had me change out the water pump on his Dodge Power Wagon. I always enjoyed working with my hands, and there is little in the way of mechanical things I can’t figure out if I try. So the water pump was a blast, even though it was simple. But my poor Bert was not enjoying the kitchen. I made it up to her after I showered with a little snuggle time.
At the end of the spring semester the college informed me I would not be welcome back until I paid off the complete promissory note that I was required to sign. The debt I owed the school was in the range of twelve hundred dollars, but after the promissory note it jumped over two thousand. My distaste for banks began then.
Bertha was transferring to the University of Houston for her sophomore year, and I returned to Margate to be with the folks. I helped out at the mini locker complex with the crew of Haitian men who my stepfather had hired. William F. Ogden is also a Marine, a veteran of World War II and Korea, so he was confident that I knew how to lead men. One time the work required that a large stack of cinder block be moved by hand from the pallets they were received on into the building to be near the sites were they would be used. I first made sure every one of the men had gloves because the blocks will tear the skin of even a heavily calloused hand. Then I went to the pile of block and took the first two block into the building to show by example what was required of the men. After that I moved more block than any two of the others combined, sort of a challenge to them to keep up. My stepdad became worried that someone would get hurt moving block at that pace and put me on a different assignment. The Haitian men worked harder for me than any other foreman my stepdad had assigned to them.
When the mini locker was finished, the company decided they liked my stepdad’s work so much they wanted to move him and his family to Dallas, Texas to work on condominiums. I was without employment for a week, but didn’t need any money except to pay my college debt. So when I saw a help wanted sign at the local Denny's Restaurant, I went in and offered to fill in for the manager for one week, just to have something to do. I became the line cook on the midnight to eight AM shift. I ran the place for eight hours a night for six nights. But I couldn’t stay. If I didn’t move with my family, I would have no place to stay. So when the week was up and there was still no replacement, I had to leave the manager without a night shift line cook. I hated to leave him out on a limb like that.
To be continued….
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